Hello, Instead of spending a lot of time talking about who I am, which in the end, will take a lot of time and patience and your own decision to decide anyway, and after many failures to "get it right", let me spend a little time saying one major thing that comes to mind and describes what I believe people should be all about. If you have a problem with distance, because I live in Santa Barbara, California,, please look elsewhere. My basic belief is that if people, who would have to qualify as "extraordinary" can make something nice happens from hundreds or thousands of miles away from one another, imagine what will happen when they meet! But after failures in the past from my own silly mistakes in not choosing the right type of per to get involved with,, I have always had a "optimist attitude", which I have been ridiculed at times for being that way, but I believe in romance and that two people can find it whether they speak different languages, have different colored skin, or live in different places,, I know somewhere out here exist a woman or couple who thinks like I do, and maybe somehow we'll find each other. and that is what a friendship is like to me, slow and steady and then something more special, with the right per, and then something more intense for each per and hopefully they began to build that bridge that unites them. The main thing I have a real problem with finding is someone I can trust, and as silly as that might sound to anyone reading this because we all want that,, its a very elusive trait to find in many people out here who claim one thing and do another. But at the same time, nothing worth having comes easy in life,, and I for one understand that. So please if you still have issues in someday allowing yourself to trust ever again-- we are definitely not a match in anyway, can you imagine the problems that will cause us both? Couples should be very concise in what they are seeking and not allow unsaid issues to endanger the prospect of developing something relaxing and a very seamless transition for all involved! My prospective partner is of average to maximum height,, about 5 feet 2 inches to 6 feet tall, has really nice set of legs,, in very good shape,, so that a number of outfits and shoes can be worn, (she must love shoes and handbags----being a girl). Is looking for something that starts as a friendship and blossoms into something a lot more, I'm not looking to play games here. Lets also clear something up from the start—I’m not into man-on-man stuff, my thing is women, so if you’re looking for a bi-sexual encounter with me, that’s not going to happen, although I’m very comfortable being around another man, but my focus is and “should be” on the woman—ALWAYS! Outgoing, intelligent, but with a real sense of humor, as well as can carry a conversation on just about anything, especially over a bottle of chilled wine, Merlot or Reisling preferred, but am open to just about anything! Loves to dance and enjoys travel of all types, doesn't mind a few "boy things" to share to do, as well as I will share a few "girl things". Always thinks "outside the box". Must enjoy erotica and willing to experiment with her partner,, enjoying "dress-up", for me in particular as I have this "thing" for lingerie on women, especially stockings, garters, heels, and everything in between as I always believed a man should "fantasize" about the woman he's with,, and not others. Well I could go on for days, but whats the sense in that, when its more fun to learn it first-hand? I hope that we all find the one we seek, IF that is what you're here for, and meanwhile I know that life should be fun,, so if things don't work out,, I'm also a very good male friend to have in your life, as I'm very open-minded and in-your-face honest about what I feel,, so you never have to wonder whats going on in my mind, and I would hope you would allow me the same accordance... I wish you and everyone all the best and feel free to write something and let me know how you feel and we can go from there,, bye for now.. Sincerely, James

My Ideal Person Everything was said above

What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:
An elevator

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Role Playing, Threesomes, Participating in Erotic Photography, Voyeurism, Massage

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Physical attraction, Same/similar fetishes, Ability to be discreet, Open to ménage à trois and/or orgies, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Creativity/Kinkiness level

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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